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Teconmoon
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Posted on 12-23-07 03:47:57 AM (last edited by teconmoon at 12-29-07 10:50 PM) Link | Quote
Edited by Teconmoon: Removed as it is pointless whining.
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Posted on 12-23-07 03:54:46 AM Link | Quote
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Harsh. Sucks when someone turns you down or just says, "let's just be friends."

I've been there. There's really only one thing you can do: Look ahead with your head held high. There'll be someone that's right for you, and vice versa. Just keep going, it'll be worth it

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Posted on 12-23-07 04:34:14 AM Link | Quote
Originally posted by Snowkasa
Just keep going, it'll be worth it

Exactly. Sorry to be a bit pessimistic, but even if she did want to go out with you, and while you'd have a good time with her, it'd most likely end. Staying with a high school partner is extremely rare - I've only heard of one case where it did go through, and that was one of my teachers last year (he's the coolest teacher ever, by the way).

But look on the bright side - she's still a friend of yours; although things might get awkward, it'll soon die down, and you two will probably forget about the thing... or at least pretend it never happened.

Either way, this moment won't be so bad after time.

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Posted on 12-23-07 05:10:32 AM Link | Quote
Jul - Post #1881 - 12-23-07 12:10:32am
Why do we chase what we know we cannot catch? No matter how dire the situation, a minuscule shred of optimism always burns deep inside. The flame can bring pain at times, but without it, life would be a dark, gloomy place. What else but that tiny bit of hope would push us to do things despite the risk of failure?


(...Where did THAT come from? )

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Posted on 12-23-07 05:45:28 AM Link | Quote
According to your profile, you're what, 15 years old? Don't think about "love" at that age; heck, mental and emotional processes aren't fully developed until late teens at the earliest.

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Posted on 12-23-07 06:10:26 AM Link | Quote
Those who have suffered know why we go on. There is always something there worth living for, even if you don't know it.

There will always be mistakes, things you regret, and even failures. Look past those; find a reason to keep going. We are not born with purpose, we must find it. Sometimes others will push you down, try to stop you. The world is a tough place, but that is no reason to give up. Show the world you won't quit.

Sometimes you will need help. Sometimes someone will need your help. Make the world a little bit happier.


The world is a cold place full of lonely people.


But everyone keeps trying.

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Posted on 12-23-07 06:39:48 AM Link | Quote
Jul - Post #1884 - 12-23-07 01:39:48am
That, and learn from your mistakes. Seriously. Every time I fail, I get that much farther before I do, because I know how to avoid the problems that occurred last time.

Of course for me, it's usually not a matter of "I fucked up", but "I was doing great and then some shit beyond my control ruined it".
Originally posted by IIMarckus
According to your profile, you're what, 15 years old? Don't think about "love" at that age; heck, mental and emotional processes aren't fully developed until late teens at the earliest.
When it starts and how long it takes depends entirely on the person. It's not infeasible that it could be done by 15.

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Posted on 12-23-07 10:16:27 AM Link | Quote
Originally posted by HyperHacker
That, and learn from your mistakes. Seriously. Every time I fail, I get that much farther before I do, because I know how to avoid the problems that occurred last time.

Of course for me, it's usually not a matter of "I fucked up", but "I was doing great and then some shit beyond my control ruined it".
Originally posted by IIMarckus
According to your profile, you're what, 15 years old? Don't think about "love" at that age; heck, mental and emotional processes aren't fully developed until late teens at the earliest.
When it starts and how long it takes depends entirely on the person. It's not infeasible that it could be done by 15.

Yeah, I'd like to believe that, but I thought I was in love when I was 14. Then about a year later, after breaking up with that girl, I met someone else, and I realized I felt a lot stronger about this girl than the previous one, and the same thing kept happening for a couple of years. Who knows, it might happen again. Don't try and justify love at a young age, because honestly it's just down to infatuation, and hormones going crazy.

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Posted on 12-23-07 06:00:39 PM Link | Quote
Just when you think you've found the love of your life, someone else will always come around and knock you off your feet.

Remember that.

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Posted on 12-23-07 06:17:04 PM Link | Quote
I guess there is some truth in all of these statements. But, what really gets to me is I don't know where I went wrong. I guess that doesn't matter anymore. I was sort of expecting this, but it still killed me.
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Posted on 12-23-07 06:25:16 PM Link | Quote
Originally posted by Kles
Just when you think you've found the love of your life, someone else will always come around and knock you off your feet.

Remember that.

It's true. It happened to me 3 times in one week.

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Posted on 12-23-07 07:31:27 PM Link | Quote
Originally posted by teconmoon
I guess there is some truth in all of these statements. But, what really gets to me is I don't know where I went wrong. I guess that doesn't matter anymore. I was sort of expecting this, but it still killed me.

You didn't go wrong. Usually, you never go wrong.

It was not meant to be. There was nothing you could do to make it work.
But, hey, there are more fish in the sea.

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Posted on 12-23-07 07:40:08 PM Link | Quote
I think I had something similar happen last week. No poetry and stuff, but I did ask a guy out, and while he accepted, it appears he thinks of me only as a friend.

Some other people I know think he might be interested in me, but I don't see it. I've been told to try asking him out again in case he's not picked up on my hints about my feelings.

I might, but I won't see him until next year now.

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Posted on 12-23-07 07:48:06 PM Link | Quote
Saddly, all we can hope to do build off of our failures in these kinds of situations. Though they are devistating, This is better than if she had said yes, and dummped you latter on(Making you feel even worse).

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Posted on 12-23-07 08:32:45 PM Link | Quote
Originally posted by carcat
Saddly, all we can hope to do build off of our failures in these kinds of situations. Though they are devistating, This is better than if she had said yes, and dummped you latter on(Making you feel even worse).


Yea, this is probably all true.
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Posted on 12-23-07 08:53:21 PM Link | Quote
Jul - Post #1886 - 12-23-07 03:53:21pm
Originally posted by ArBeWhat
I thought I was in love when I was 14. Then about a year later, after breaking up with that girl, I met someone else, and I realized I felt a lot stronger about this girl than the previous one
Yeah, that'll happen. I don't think it has much to do with age, though.

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Posted on 12-23-07 08:56:04 PM Link | Quote
Originally posted by HyperHacker
Originally posted by ArBeWhat
I thought I was in love when I was 14. Then about a year later, after breaking up with that girl, I met someone else, and I realized I felt a lot stronger about this girl than the previous one
Yeah, that'll happen. I don't think it has much to do with age, though.


It might, as teenagers don't have a fully developed prefrontal cortex yet, making them prone to be more impulsive, emotionally volatile and less likely to consider things long term.

That could certainly have an impact upon how one feels about others.

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Posted on 12-23-07 11:09:08 PM Link | Quote
Originally posted by Tarale
It might, as teenagers don't have a fully developed prefrontal cortex yet, making them prone to be more impulsive, emotionally volatile and less likely to consider things long term.

Take a 15-year-old who has been taking care of his schizophrenic mother after the death of his father. You'll quickly find that maturity and long-term considerations have little to do with the condition of the prefrontal cortex.
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Posted on 12-23-07 11:26:59 PM Link | Quote
Originally posted by GuyPerfect
Originally posted by Tarale
It might, as teenagers don't have a fully developed prefrontal cortex yet, making them prone to be more impulsive, emotionally volatile and less likely to consider things long term.

Take a 15-year-old who has been taking care of his schizophrenic mother after the death of his father. You'll quickly find that maturity and long-term considerations have little to do with the condition of the prefrontal cortex.


The connections formed in the prefrontal cortex are formed by the tasks you do. These connections are formed mainly in adolescence, although the prefrontal cortex does not stop developing until age 25.

A young carer would have to repeatedly perform tasks that require maturity and planning, and so these connections would be formed earlier, and solidified earlier than the same skillsets in adolescents that are not carers.

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Posted on 12-24-07 12:39:43 AM Link | Quote
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Originally posted by Tarale
Originally posted by GuyPerfect
Originally posted by Tarale
It might, as teenagers don't have a fully developed prefrontal cortex yet, making them prone to be more impulsive, emotionally volatile and less likely to consider things long term.

Take a 15-year-old who has been taking care of his schizophrenic mother after the death of his father. You'll quickly find that maturity and long-term considerations have little to do with the condition of the prefrontal cortex.


The connections formed in the prefrontal cortex are formed by the tasks you do. These connections are formed mainly in adolescence, although the prefrontal cortex does not stop developing until age 25.

A young carer would have to repeatedly perform tasks that require maturity and planning, and so these connections would be formed earlier, and solidified earlier than the same skillsets in adolescents that are not carers.

But wouldn't that mean that until the age of 25 people can develop said connections, rather that it not being developed?

Wait that actually explains many things...


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