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09-21-18 03:45:51 PM

Jul - Innocent Town - Have you ever thought about being another gender? New poll - New thread - New reply
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You know, somethin' else.
Not at all
 
4.9%, 2 votes
Maybe once or twice
 
19.5%, 8 votes
Every now and then
 
26.8%, 11 votes
Tons, like, daydreaming about it level
 
17.1%, 7 votes
I AM the other gender
 
31.7%, 13 votes
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Posted on 07-16-18 11:30:33 AM Link | Quote
More so than I used to admit, but that could also be because I'm unhappy with myself in other ways.

I won't go into detail right now since I have a hard time putting my private thoughts into words. Besides, it's my journey so I can take it at the pace I want. I just hope I end up happier.
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Posted on 08-06-18 05:45:27 PM Link | Quote
By now I think the best I can tell is I'm genderfluid, tending to lean feminine a little more often. That is, I've been trying to log my feelings daily since late April and with many gaps earlier, I seem to do pretty well, now. Feminine/Female moods last longer.

Originally posted by Xkeeper
...the fact it's basically been reduced to "what parts do you have" / "what parts do you want to have" in most cases is p awful


Although I'm (hopefully!) better than that in general with other people that's more or less as sophisticated as my process goes at the moment... Hello there feeling like a fraud.

Maybe it'll get better as I get attuned more to these feelings.



Really enjoying the "fuck normality" vibes in here.
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Posted on 08-07-18 12:29:01 AM Link | Quote
I had a dream about it once... It felt weirdly realistic, and I think my brain struggled to comprehend sensory inputs from my dream body's new features. (At least, I'm assuming it was a dream... )
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Posted on 08-07-18 06:04:46 AM Link | Quote
Originally posted by BatElite
Originally posted by Xkeeper
...the fact it's basically been reduced to "what parts do you have" / "what parts do you want to have" in most cases is p awful

Although I'm (hopefully!) better than that in general with other people that's more or less as sophisticated as my process goes at the moment... Hello there feeling like a fraud.

Maybe it'll get better as I get attuned more to these feelings.

To be clear, if that's the most important aspect of it to you, that's okay. It's just good to understand that it's not the be-all end-all of gender for everyone.

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Posted on 08-07-18 11:53:30 AM Link | Quote
Originally posted by Q
Originally posted by BatElite
*Stuff I might as well trim*

To be clear, if that's the most important aspect of it to you, that's okay. It's just good to understand that it's not the be-all end-all of gender for everyone.




Oh I know, and I hope in fact things turn out a bit more sophisticated for me at some point. It feels like I'm taking the piss at times, comparing how I judge things to others. :/

Gender as it relates to others is something I've been watching a bit from the sideline, learning as I go.
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Posted on 08-08-18 12:23:10 AM Link | Quote
Originally posted by BatElite
Oh I know, and I hope in fact things turn out a bit more sophisticated for me at some point. It feels like I'm taking the piss at times, comparing how I judge things to others. :/

Gender as it relates to others is something I've been watching a bit from the sideline, learning as I go.

i think something that's important to know is that nobody else but you gets to determine how you interpret your feelings relating your gender, and how you designate your gender

gender is a personal thing. there's no "right" or "wrong" or "sophisticated" or "overly simple" way to experience it. be you, whatever that you is

(of course, if you feel like there's more complicated feelings there and you want to unravel them, by all means, keep exploring... but don't feel pressured into anything based on comparison to others)
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Posted on 09-16-18 07:45:52 AM Link | Quote
i wish i was a girl
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Posted on 09-16-18 08:15:21 AM Link | Quote
Wish granted
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Posted on 09-16-18 09:34:46 PM (last edited by Darkhero at 09-17-18 01:28:01 PM) Link | Quote
Originally posted by Rambly
i wish i was a girl

Good news! You already are.

As for me... A lot has happened since my egg cracked in July and I'm currently in the cycle of confidence followed by doubts and dysphoria, and it's been preventing me from taking any steps beyond small things here and in private. Doesn't help that I'm a broke college student.

Maybe I should talk it out with someone here, if I ever get the confidence.
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Posted on 09-17-18 12:49:18 AM Link | Quote
I'm up for talking with people about gender stuff if anybody feels like they need to talk to somebody about it.
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Posted on 09-17-18 07:17:49 AM Link | Quote
Originally posted by Q
Wish granted

about damn time

Originally posted by Darkhero
Originally posted by Rambly
i wish i was a girl

Good news! You already are.

nope wrong >:(

Originally posted by Q
I'm up for talking with people about gender stuff if anybody feels like they need to talk to somebody about it.
ok i'll PM you
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Posted on 09-17-18 03:54:43 PM Link | Quote
my new poll response is "[something about Judith Butler]"
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Posted on 09-17-18 04:11:37 PM (last edited by Luigigamer4718 at 09-17-18 04:12:25 PM) Link | Quote
Yeah. On and off since about early 2016, though it's noted in my specialist doctor's letters to my parents that I'm suspected of having gender dysphoria after I mentioned it to them. Perhaps it's true feelings as they never went away fully, and they are pretty strong feelings indeed.

My parents don't accept me, but I'm planning to transition when I move out. Not sure how I'm gonna cope with it all though given I'm heterosexual (if you go by my assigned-at-birth sex) and perhaps maybe will ask a certain Nicole at college out, she's a heterosexual female sadly...

... relationships with others will be difficult. This is also the UK, so acceptance and getting through will also be difficult. But hey, if it makes me happy in the long run for who I am and I actually start expressing myself IRL how I want to, rather than having to fill in this stereotypical male personality somewhat (though I actually don't particularly do so, I feel men are more pressured emotionally and women more physically idk)

(Though I do plan to get with another MtF at some point who is actually an inactive member here.)

Seems the nearest gender clinic to me is in London. If I drive there I'll have to deal with idiot drivers (I'm learning to drive pretty soon).
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Posted on 09-18-18 05:20:14 AM Link | Quote
I've thought about it at times, but looking back at it it has mostly come down to general body dysphoria, rather than gender dysphoria specifically.

I mean, that being said I have never really wanted to be particularly masculine with my gender. I guess the desired expression of my gender I wanted was "male but soft", I guess? I dunno how to put it into words.
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Posted on 09-18-18 12:59:53 PM Link | Quote
Originally posted by Xenesis
I've thought about it at times, but looking back at it it has mostly come down to general body dysphoria, rather than gender dysphoria specifically.

I mean, that being said I have never really wanted to be particularly masculine with my gender. I guess the desired expression of my gender I wanted was "male but soft", I guess? I dunno how to put it into words.


This is literally the conclusion I have reached in these last weeks and my goodness does it feel good!

I think without places like this I might still be wondering and worrying.
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Posted on 09-19-18 11:04:04 PM Link | Quote
Originally posted by Xenesis
I've thought about it at times, but looking back at it it has mostly come down to general body dysphoria, rather than gender dysphoria specifically.

I mean, that being said I have never really wanted to be particularly masculine with my gender. I guess the desired expression of my gender I wanted was "male but soft", I guess? I dunno how to put it into words.

same here for me. i may actually know how to put it into words but i'm worried i might get carried away. plus i'm still not sure i got it 100% figured out yet
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