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Gabu Star Mario Placeholder Ikachan until :effort: is found Level: 172      Posts: 8439/9981 EXP: 67989599 For next: 112635 Since: 08-10-09 Pronouns: they/them, she/her From: Santa Cruisin' USA Since last post: 56 days Last activity: 4 days
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Bisqwit 90   Level: 22  Posts: 19/94 EXP: 55463 For next: 2887 Since: 03-12-12 From: Finland Since last post: 8.5 years Last activity: 6.6 years
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Originally posted by Gabu Written by a person with over 8400 posts on this forum? I guess everyone suffers the same acclimation problems. But then again, climate on a board is merely a sum of all of its participants, which includes even the new guy. (It is the same with languages.) Go ahead, shape the world to your liking. You may get it wrong, but at that point interaction has already begun. It is easier if there is a clear topic in mind and you've got something clear and defined that you wish to contribute. On more chat-oriented ones on-the-other-hand... I do not have experience to tell. |
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Girlydragon 3030  Possibly neither Girly nor Dragon. Level: 105  Posts: 2533/3030 EXP: 12256183 For next: 6077 Since: 07-21-07 From: Sweden Since last post: 282 days Last activity: 10 hours
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Snowdeath 560  Deaf bat walking on water. Level: 49  Posts: 541/567 EXP: 849721 For next: 34162 Since: 06-29-11 From: Port Alberni, BC Since last post: 8.1 years Last activity: 6.3 years
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 Total Posts: 541 Total Days: 380 07-13-12 12:42:34 PM You know what? That is exactly how I felt when I joined Jul, just a bit over a year ago.
I knew that Jul didn't take in Vizzed users well, and they already had a stigma against Vizzedians. However, I knew that I was different compared to the average user there. (12 years old pokefan derps.) I just joined, made my introduction thread, and was welcomed in. I wasn't exactly active except in the Mafia threads in Signpost Maze, but then on December last year I decided to screw everything and truly joined Jul as a Juler, and... Yeah... here I am. I have a bunch of great friends here, plus I'm perfectly happy here. Everything is well. c: My point is that you can't really know what's going to happen when you join a new forum, until it happens. I even thought Jul was full of stuck-up people with high expectations in an unwelcome clique. True story. D: Also, I'm going to echo what Aioli said... roll with it! ____________________ |
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dotUser From the Grave Level: 91  Posts: 1551/2357 EXP: 7427633 For next: 41279 Since: 10-20-10 Pronouns: she/her From: a particularly peculiar tiny store's back shelf Since last post: 34 days Last activity: 6 days
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I sadly do not join forums often enough because most tend to be of the "you must conform to our extremes else ye be the punching bag till you ragequit and/or conform eventually".
The few that were not that way include Jul, obviously. But Jul and the few others were/are filled with actually intelligent people. Not jerks. ____________________ |
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Gabu Star Mario Placeholder Ikachan until :effort: is found Level: 172  Posts: 8445/9981 EXP: 67989599 For next: 112635 Since: 08-10-09 Pronouns: they/them, she/her From: Santa Cruisin' USA Since last post: 56 days Last activity: 4 days
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Acey Wendy Koopa garbage-chan Level: 95  Posts: 1623/2538 EXP: 8394642 For next: 273965 Since: 07-14-10 From: meme jail Since last post: 6.0 years Last activity: 6.0 years
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Lyskar 12210  -The Chaos within trumps the Chaos without- Level: 192  Posts: 11444/12211 EXP: 99321369 For next: 552202 Since: 07-03-07 From: 52-2-88-7 Since last post: 7.4 years Last activity: 7.3 years
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Sponty Part boy, part car; Boycar, Protector and King of Chilladelphia Level: 184  Posts: 10711/11098 EXP: 85639526 For next: 479884 Since: 08-24-07 Pronouns: he/him From: Canada Since last post: 6 days Last activity: 4 days
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Rick M'Lord, there's a knife in your head! Level: 152  Posts: 6145/7540 EXP: 43721965 For next: 579695 Since: 02-15-10 From: Maine Since last post: 6 days Last activity: 6 days
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| I had this problem more before I joined up with Jul. I had a nice string of bad luck with forums, so naturally, I just kind of decided to stop joining forums.
However, something about Jul had me jump out and enjoy myself at everywhere but the TCRF forums, so somehow I just started posting more and getting accepted more, and bam. I guess you just kind of have to jump in and post, I guess. o.o ____________________ _______________________ | 6145 | 13855 | 880 | 14 |  |
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Zero One 5170 And as we fall the spirit carries on, That a hero'll come and save us all, As we call the ones we left below, We all dream of the day we rise above Level: 129  Posts: 4069/5173 EXP: 24571800 For next: 477854 Since: 05-24-10 From: Delta Quadrant Since last post: 1.6 years Last activity: 130 days
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— Colin —
Missing: One avatar. Will be restored at some point. Post 9754/10052 Active 8.3 years ago
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Celice Member Level: 31 Posts: 42/196 EXP: 178025 For next: 7338 Since: 10-24-10 Since last post: 5.7 years Last activity: 3.9 years
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| I actually have a sort of inverted problem, as the message board I usually frequented has just about self-destructed due to its member cliques/factions, paired with a lack of new content/people/posts. It's basically become a circle-jerk of e-buddies, and if you're not on their good side, you get targeted and ridiculed. But I mean, hanging out there for some years now, I don't really know where to migrate to. A lot of boards seem so serious lately, and less light-hearted. Or if they are, it's because they've become the extreme of factionalism and are just forums full of e-buddies who no longer have anything but themselves. It seems like the only cool in-between kinda places are very inactive or just outside my interests :o
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legacyme3 "In short, legacyme3 does horrible things to people, and I don't think anyone else on Jul should be exposed to him, no matter how decent of a person he pretends to be." I don't normally ban for offsite behavior but you're a whole level of terrible. Level: NaN  Posts: 1529/-1694 EXP: NaN For next: 0 Since: 06-01-11 Since last post: 9.0 years Last activity: 3.8 years
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May not want to take MY advice, since I'm not the best with online relationships...
But I'll toss in my two cents and give you something to think about. Generally, be yourself, but also, be flexible. I'm not saying to be one of those bendy straws that people can twist any way they want, because eventually you end up acting like not you. It's cliche, but I think that's the most important thing... although... --- While you can be yourself, you may not be liked, conversely, you could act like someone you are not, yet still be liked. --- Once you get that part aside, it's just enjoying the atmosphere and contributing to it positively. People tend to not like those who intentionally annoy everyone. it's just not conducive to success 
When I joined jul, I was like... "what the hell is this place" Unlike what Colin suggested, I didn't really "lurk". I just decided to be me. I got a few friends, so I did something right I suppose. I don't really stick around here much anymore (for secret reasons) but I'd like to think I'm generally ok with some people. I just did what felt natural, and before I knew it, people at least knew who I was. So I guess that's my little ramble(?) I hope it was of some help. ____________________ What Would Leggy Do? |
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Typhoid Member Level: 28 Posts: 101/156 EXP: 130305 For next: 1033 Since: 02-02-10 From: Killadelphia Since last post: 7.8 years Last activity: 7.7 years
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| I've never really felt that I had to do anything to make myself fit in with a community until I stumbled across this one. I feel like quite a bit of an outsider, largely because I am one lol. I just kind of float in and out, hopefully getting a little closer to the right shore each time. |
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Sagittaire Member Level: 15  Posts: 33/33 EXP: 13174 For next: 3210 Since: 02-10-09 From: Fort Lee, NJ Since last post: 9.8 years Last activity: 9.8 years
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To make a friend...
...be a friend. When you do good unto someone, good shall come back onto you. That's the name of that game. ____________________  |
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