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Posted on 05-22-10 06:02:20 AM (last edited by Bitmap at 05-22-10 03:07 AM)
So, I went on a date this past Thursday. First date in a while. The whole thing went off great! Nothing was wrong; I would still like advice for further dates.
(!) I am sure everyone else who is single would like to know tips too! So share them!
Well, I stayed the night with a friend of mine and my date was going to stay over too. During this we watched movies, played Apples to apples. And we had a great time.
Ok, so we kissed, cuddled, and so on. But I feel we should have some more dates to see if things are right for each other. Personally, I feel she is a little too forward (Even while I was drinking).
E- No sex. I refuse to have sex unless we know each other thoughtfully
1. Be yourself. None of this BS that you need to impress her with what you think she will like but isn't you. If you want a relationship to work out, be yourself because she will find out over time that you lied/tricked her. If she doesn't like you for who you really are, then you move onto the next.
2. Don't be a dick. We all have manners, make sure you use them. Hold the door for her and anyone that might be near by
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Originally posted by BitmapSo, I went on a date this past Thursday. First date in a while. The whole thing went off great! Nothing was wrong; I would still like advice for further dates.
(!) I am sure everyone else who is single would like to know tips too! So share them!
Well, I stayed the night with a friend of mine and my date was going to stay over too. During this we watched movies, played Apples to apples. And we had a great time.
Ok, so we kissed, cuddled, and so on. But I feel we should have some more dates to see if things are right for each other. Personally, I feel she is a little too forward (Even while I was drinking).
E- No sex. I refuse to have sex unless we know each other thoughtfully
So. Your thoughts?
I was just on a date too, Anya hit the nail on the head as far as my dating strategy goes. I'm just myself, don't put on any false fronts. The date may not go well but you want to find someone that enjoys you not some other fake you.
The only relationship I've had was online, and it didn't last very long.
I'd appreciate dating advice for lesbians who hate parties and drinking alcohol though I may try to find a partner after I move out of the State of Homophobia.
Originally posted by Bitmap...E- No sex. I refuse to have sex unless we know each other thoughtfully...
I would be exercising this regardless. I've had times where it didn't end well if we didn't have sex on the first. It's the most retarded thought process one can have.
More retarded, quite possibly, is they actually wanted to DO IT with me.
But yea, if you aren't yourself when it really matters at the start then you aren't going to get very far very fast at all. Trying to act like a big shot will only end up screwing you in the end when you get caught in a bad moment.
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do NOT eat daikon radishes before a big date. I've spent the past two hours burping and smelling my breath.
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The one thing that I love about myself is my confidence in dating. Now, with meeting new friends however I need a bit to warm up to. For dates, I'm already warmed up, and after all I am there so that other girly girl get's to know me.
As for the girl I dated for that one night. I am gonna call her up this week so we can do some karaoke. I'm sure that would be a pretty fun thing to do. She does like to sing!
Originally posted by TerraThe only relationship I've had was online, and it didn't last very long.
I'd appreciate dating advice for lesbians who hate parties and drinking alcohol though I may try to find a partner after I move out of the State of Homophobia.
You should move to Ashland Oregon, it seems like the folks who aren't gay/lesbian/bisexual/nudist/atheist/artist/college students are the outcasts! It's a very pretty town too in my opinion, love the duck pond.
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Originally posted by KeitaroSo. I ran in to a shiny Graveler a few nights ago. He proceeded to self destruct. I hope he's in hell right now.
If you want to find out more about each other and keep things slow, then I would suggest keeping the kissing/cuddling to a minimum. Our natural physical need for connection has a very strong will of its own and has to be kept in check. Its something that you have to be in control of, otherwise it will get the best of you. I'm a proponent of abstinence before marriage and that stems from my Christian upbringing, but I only held myself to it. I don't feel the need to push it on anyone else unless they agree with it also. If you don't, thats fine. But if you want to keep a relationship non-physical before you agree its the right time and you feel you truly know the person, then many of the principles of abstinence before marriage can apply.
So, keep your emotions and feelings in check and make sure you plan fun things together (with other people around when possible). Don't make any assumptions about the other person. Ask questions and answer any they have, but don't have too many "Where do you see us going" discussions. Those don't really have any purpose, but a "Where do you want to go in your life" discussion would be much more productive. Express what you like, what you do, and what you want to do.
Thats just my 2 cents.
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Originally posted by Bitmap...E- No sex. I refuse to have sex unless we know each other thoughtfully...
I would be exercising this regardless. I've had times where it didn't end well if we didn't have sex on the first. It's the most retarded thought process one can have.
More retarded, quite possibly, is they actually wanted to DO IT with me.
But yea, if you aren't yourself when it really matters at the start then you aren't going to get very far very fast at all. Trying to act like a big shot will only end up screwing you in the end when you get caught in a bad moment.
-have self esteem/respect
-don't be overbearing
-don't ignore sexuality as a seperate part of the relationship, but of course respect your partner's feelings
-don't wait for stuff like "perfect matches"
-agree on asking about "where do you see us going" but keep expectations clear,
and most of all have fun!
I may try to find a partner after I move out of the State of Homophobia.
